Dark hours require dark posts


So having read and reread my post from last night I have determined that sleep is integral to wellbeing and that I should go to bed earlier.

I have been feeling all of those feelings and it is good to get them out, but I am now feeling like maybe, just maybe I should also highlight the wondrous things and not focus solely on the bad.

I have been frustrated, but this situation that my family is in has had its highlights... From serious discussions with my sister and my husband (not together because they don't do that) but also lovely discussions with my brother (inlaw but let's face it... he's my brother and he is stuck with me now). There have been moments with my cousins/best friends that I can't quite put into words how much they truly mean to me. They are there for me without thought, they check-in, they make me laugh... all key and important things... But more so is the time with my parents. The chats, the laughs about technological failings, and smiles.

I am proud of my parents. They are 100% a testament to what marriage can be. They celebrated 41 years of marriage yesterday and they love each other like they have always, with respect and absolute adoration for one another.  The love and support between the two of them warm my heart. My parents will always be who they are and that has its advantages and disadvantages like anyone, but the love they share has always something that I had strived for, that is until I found it in Doug.

Doug has been my rock. This is a trying time for everyone but he has been taking on things when I simply cannot get my head around them. The challenges surrounding even this time period have been unprecedented, however, this is why we work, our definitions of what we can do and accomplish, complement each other effortlessly. I say this as he is sitting next to me, oblivious that I am writing about him, but ultimately he is my person, the family I chose, and I love him. I know that we will make it through anything and that gives me strength for all of the things coming, for the trials and tribulations of life. He is my lobster.

My people on the periphery that have been checking in, sending wishes of positivity and of prayer. I cannot tell you how much that means. I know that our army is vast, is legion, and that we can get through the coming storms. Those quiet and beautiful moments are precious and each conversation means so much. There are silver linings... you just have to be willing to see them.

Thank you.

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